The Wisdom of Hesitation猶豫的智慧

Ever caught yourself waiting before making a decision， but not knowing why？ Explore how hesitation can be a meaningful manifestation of intuition.

你是否發(fā)現(xiàn)自己總是在做決定前躊躇再三，卻不知為何如此？猶豫源自直覺(jué)，是有意義的，其中道理且看下文分析。

You’ve thought about it， you’ve weighed1 the pros and cons， you’ve made your decision and then…you hesitate. Your mouse hovers over the “purchase now” button， you’ve written the text but can’t quite bring yourself to press “send，” or you put your key in the ignition but can’t quite seem to start the car. You hesitate.

深思熟慮，權(quán)衡利弊，下定決心，然后……你猶豫了。鼠標(biāo)光標(biāo)在“立即購(gòu)買”選項(xiàng)附近徘徊不定，編輯完信息文本卻遲遲無(wú)法按下“發(fā)送”鍵，或者已經(jīng)把車鑰匙插進(jìn)點(diǎn)火開關(guān)，但又似乎不能發(fā)動(dòng)汽車。你猶豫了。

Our culture values doing. We are big on2 “going for it，” on taking action， on that valuable next step. And that’s fair. It’s powerful to take action on the things we want， and absolutely to do things that we’re afraid of. This might be an unpopular opinion， but I think there’s a lot of wisdom in listening to our hesitation.

我們所處的文化以“行動(dòng)”為貴。我們崇尚“全力以赴”，行動(dòng)至上，看重邁出有價(jià)值的下一步，這再合理不過(guò)了。付諸行動(dòng)追求是了不起的，克服恐懼出手更是如此。可能跟大多數(shù)人的想法不同，我認(rèn)為關(guān)注內(nèi)心的猶豫大有智慧。

Why should we listen to our hesitation？

我們?yōu)楹我P(guān)注自己內(nèi)心的猶豫？

Our minds are powerful and important， but so are our bodies. We don’t always make it a practice to listen to our bodies. When we’re paying attention， we have access to a lot of nonrational information， including， potentially， from our intuition， our spirit guides， God， or whatever our conception of the Divine is. Hesitation can be a signal that there’s something we haven’t considered yet， some hidden information we really need. When we walk up to the door but don’t quite want to open it， it might be a good idea to pause and consider what’s going on in our bodies. Is there something we haven’t been paying attention to？

人的頭腦強(qiáng)大且重要，但其實(shí)身體也是如此。我們并不總是習(xí)慣于關(guān)注自己的身體。當(dāng)我們把注意力集中時(shí)，就會(huì)得到許多非理性信息，它們可能來(lái)自于直覺(jué)、精神指引、上帝，或是任何我們對(duì)于神性的概念。猶豫可能暗示我們對(duì)有些事考慮不周，暗示一些我們真正需要的隱藏信息。當(dāng)我們走到門口卻不大愿意開門時(shí)，不妨停下腳步，想想自己的身體反應(yīng)。自己是不是忽略了什么？

When you notice yourself hesitating， you’re not in an enthusiastic “yes”. An enthusiastic “yes” means every part of you—heart， mind， body， soul—is ready and willing to do the thing. Hesitation means a part of you isn’t quite sure.

當(dāng)你注意到自己猶豫不決，那就不是處于充滿熱情的“行”的狀態(tài)。熱情的“行”的狀態(tài)，意味著你的每一部分——心靈、頭腦、身體和靈魂，都已經(jīng)做好準(zhǔn)備并且有意愿去做這件事。猶豫則說(shuō)明你的某一部分并沒(méi)有做好準(zhǔn)備。

That doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a “no，” either. Sometimes that part is fearful， perhaps because of past experiences. If our rational minds know that it’s perfectly safe， we may simply need to reassure3 that part and move forward. That hesitation could also come from a part that knows， on some level， that we’re rushing， that this isn’t the best option， that we’re not quite sure. We may need to gather more information or ensure that we have actually looked at all the other options.

猶豫也不一定就等于“不行”。有時(shí)猶豫不決的那部分是在害怕，原因或許是過(guò)去的一些經(jīng)歷。如果我們的理性頭腦判斷情況安全，那么我們僅需安撫好那部分，然后繼續(xù)下一步行動(dòng)。猶豫也可能是因?yàn)樯眢w某部分在某種程度上意識(shí)到，我們只是出于一時(shí)沖動(dòng)，或許還有更好的選擇，我們內(nèi)心其實(shí)存有疑慮。也許我們需要收集更多信息，或者確保自己已經(jīng)考慮了其他所有可能性。

Hesitation as intuition

猶豫是一種直覺(jué)

Hesitation can be our intuition trying to talk to us. It’s easy to miss signals from our intuition when we’re always trying to move from our thinking minds. Hesitation can mean your intuition is trying to speak to you from some deep inner place.

猶豫可能是我們的直覺(jué)試圖和我們對(duì)話。我們總是按頭腦的思考行事，就很容易錯(cuò)過(guò)直覺(jué)給出的提示。猶豫不決可能意味著你內(nèi)心深處的直覺(jué)正在嘗試跟你交流。

It’s XTM4cl3Ls9zoLOIxMd0rnQ==not always easy to know the difference between our intuition and， for example， our fear， anxiety， or trauma triggers4. When we’re in a consistent practice of listening to ourselves and our bodies and when we know our fears and triggers well and can tell the difference between a lack of safety and a reasonable risk， our hesitation can be a valuable source of intuitive information.

將直覺(jué)和恐懼、焦慮或創(chuàng)傷誘因等區(qū)分開來(lái)，并不總是一件容易的事。當(dāng)我們不斷關(guān)注自己和自己的身體時(shí)，當(dāng)我們熟知自己的恐懼和誘因，并且分得清什么是危險(xiǎn)、什么是合理范圍內(nèi)的冒險(xiǎn)時(shí)，我們就可以從猶豫中獲得來(lái)自直覺(jué)的寶貴信息。

Most of us try to make decisions with our rational minds. That makes sense—our rational minds have a lot of good qualities. But they don’t catch everything， and they tend to be comfortable sitting in their narratives and frameworks for how the world works， which isn’t always reflective of reality. When we can sit with our thoughts and emotions around a certain decision， it can give us a lot more information than when we think alone.

大多數(shù)人試圖用理性頭腦做決定。這么做是明智的，因?yàn)槔硇灶^腦有諸多優(yōu)點(diǎn)。但理性并非萬(wàn)全，它容易使人沉浸在自己的敘事和思維框架內(nèi)看待這個(gè)世界，而看到的東西并不總是與現(xiàn)實(shí)相符。當(dāng)我們同時(shí)用思想和情感來(lái)做某個(gè)決定時(shí)，所獲取的信息量遠(yuǎn)勝于單純依賴思考。

One way that we can help ourselves with a specific decision is to notice when there’s hesitation and， if you have the time， wait. Sleep on it. Give it a week， even. Check back in with the decision you thought you made and see if anything feels different. Another interesting way to look at making a decision is to walk up to the door of it. Take action as if you had already made the decision and， before it’s irreversible5， of course， notice how it feels to walk that path. That may give you more information than thinking ever could.

在做某個(gè)決定時(shí)，我們可以幫助自己的一個(gè)方法就是猶豫時(shí)提高警惕，以及如果時(shí)間允許就等一等。留待次日，甚至給它一周的時(shí)間。然后回頭看看你認(rèn)為自己已經(jīng)做好的決定，看看是否有什么地方感覺(jué)不同。另一個(gè)幫助自己做決定的有趣方法就是直接行動(dòng)。采取行動(dòng)，就像你已經(jīng)決定好的那樣，當(dāng)然，在事情尚可挽回之前，留意行動(dòng)的感覺(jué)。相比單純思考，這樣做可能會(huì)為你提供更多信息。

（譯者單位：大連外國(guó)語(yǔ)大學(xué)高級(jí)翻譯學(xué)院）

1 weigh權(quán)衡，考慮。 2 be big on喜歡，熱衷于。

3消除恐懼或疑慮。

4 trauma trigger創(chuàng)傷觸發(fā)因素。

5不可逆轉(zhuǎn)的，不可挽回的。