孩子，我們永不會和你決裂！

Dear Grandchild，

Grandma and Grandpa know that you’re hurting right now because Mommy and Daddy are breaking up. It’s called “divorce” and you probably know some other children who have gone through this， too. It happens a lot， more than anyone would like， but we want you to know that you’re not alone.

Grandma and Grandpa know that you probably don’t feel that way right now. It’s no fun at all， is it? Just a little while ago， things looked fine， everything seemed to be just right， and now everything seems to have fallen apart. We really wish we could somehow “kiss all the 1)boo-boos” and make everything right， but， sadly， Honey， we can’t.

We want you to know that this time is difficult for us， too. It makes us very sad to see the hurt and uncertainty in your eyes. When we sense that you are hurting， we hurt， too.

Mommy and Daddy have found that， for whatever reasons， they can’t go on living together. You must know that Mommy and Daddy still love YOU very much even if they are having problems with each other.

We want you to know several important things， things that we hope will help you to go through this scary and difficult time.

The first thing that we want to tell you is this: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! You know， whenever a divorce happens， almost all children think that they did something that made it happen. And we want to promise you this—that is almost NEVER true! Mommies and Daddies who break up are doing so because they are having some big problems in their relationship. And you are not to blame. If you are blaming yourself， even a little bit， please let us know. Talk to us or write us and we’ll be your special friends and listen to your feelings.

The second thing we want you to know is that YOU PROBABLY CAN’T FIX IT. Lots of kids imagine that they might be able to find just the perfect thing to say or do and， magically， Mommy and Daddy will start loving each other again. We’re sorry to tell you， that also almost never works. Sometimes Mommies and Daddies DO get back together again， later， after a time apart and some time for healing， but that happens because THEY found their own reasons to do so.

The third and maybe the most important thing Grandma and Grandpa want to tell you is this: WE WILL NEVER DIVORCE YOU! We will ALWAYS be there for you when you need us. Sometimes we may be far away， but you can call or write us. We’ll answer as soon as we can. And you can always talk to us because we promise to be the very best listeners we can for you.

You need to know that we won’t ever 2)take sides between your Mommy and your Daddy. The only “side” we’re going to be on is YOURS. Instead， we’ll be a good listener and we’ll also help you find good things to do and great ways to spend your time. We’ll search for fun and we’ll make some of our own， too.

You might think that you’ll never be happy again or that things will never feel right again. We can understand those feelings. But we want you to know something that we’ve learned because we’ve lived so long and seen and experienced so many things—you WILL laugh again， it WILL get better. You’ll laugh and grow and experience joy again. Good things will happen. You will have many good times with Daddy and many good times with Mommy again， we assure you. It won’t be the same as it was but your life will be a good one. And the love that surrounds you—from your parents and from all your grandparents and from the rest of the family and all your friends—that love will heal and help.

You can contact us easily. We’re enclosing a card with our address， home phone number， cell phone number and email address. So， no matter where you are， you’ll always be able to reach us. If you have to， you can 3)call us “collect.” I have also included a pack of 4)stamped postcards addressed to us. So you can always send us a card. And there’s a stack of 5)stamped addressed envelopes for when you have longer things to write or a nice picture to send us.

Honey， you’re not alone. Your Mommy and Daddy still love you， even if they are breaking up. And we’ll always love you， no matter what. And remember:

WE WILL NEVER DIVORCE YOU. NEVER.

LOVE，

Grandma and Grandpa

親愛的孫子(/孫女):

爺爺奶奶知道你此時正難過著，因為爸爸媽媽分開了。那叫“離婚”，你大概也認識其他一些有類似經歷的孩子。這種事很常見，沒人愿意這樣，但我們想要你知道，你并不是孤身一人。

爺爺奶奶知道你此刻或許并不這么認為。這一點兒也不好玩，不是嗎?就在不久前，一切看上去都很好，似乎沒任何問題;然而現在，一切似乎都崩潰了。我們真希望一切能像自己小時候受了傷被“親親”就沒事了那樣，但，讓人難過的是，寶貝，我們做不到。

我們想要你知道，這個時候對于我們來說也很艱難?？吹侥阊劾锏耐纯嗪蛻岩?，我們感到很難過。當我們感覺到你在傷心，我們也會傷心。

無論出于什么原因，爸爸媽媽發現，他們無法繼續在一起生活了。你必須明白，爸爸媽媽仍深愛著你，即使他們之間出現了問題。

我們想要你明白幾件重要的事，希望這些事能幫你度過這段可怕的艱難時期。

我們想要告訴你的第一件事是:這不是你的錯!你瞧，每當出現離婚的情況，幾乎所有的孩子都會認為是他們做了一些事導致爸媽離婚。而我們想向你擔?！旧隙疾皇沁@么一回事!爸爸媽媽分開是因為他們的關系出了大問題。沒人會責怪你。如果你感到自責，即使是一點點的自責，也要讓我們知道。跟我們說，或是寫信給我們，我們將會成為你特別的朋友，傾聽你的心聲。

我們想要你知道的第二件事是:你很可能沒法補救。很多孩子想象著，也許只要自己能說對些什么或做對些什么，然后，神奇地，爸爸媽媽又能重新彼此相愛?！?br>