打破尷尬，你需要學會這8招

1.Disarm them with your vulnerability示弱讓他們放松警惕

Sometimes the quickest way to make another person comfortable is to be vulnerable yourself. On a flight? Tell your seatmate, “Flying makes me a little nervous.”

有時讓別人舒服的最快方法就是示弱。坐飛機時可以告訴同座的乘客“坐飛機我有點緊張”。

2. Be brutally honest 敢說真話

Being honest is best as it doesn’t waste anyone’s time.

誠實最好，因為不浪費任何人的時間。

3. Tell them their celebrity doppelganger說別人長得像名人

“Did anyone ever tell you that you look just like Sophia Vergara? ” This approach is always effective and the person on the receiving end will say thank you.

“有人跟你說過你長得像Sophia Vergara嗎？”這個說法總是很有效，對方還會說謝謝。

4. “Cheers” them 跟他們干杯

If you are in a bar and looking for an excuse to talk to someone, just go up and raise your glass and say“cheers!”This is effective because it’s non-threatening.

如果你在酒吧想找理由跟別人搭訕，就走過去舉起杯說“干杯”，這招很有效，因為沒有威脅性。

5. Size them up 讓他們幫你量尺寸

People love to be seen as useful. For instance, if you’re shopping ask them what they think of a fit because the person you’re buying for is about their size.

人們喜歡別人覺得自己有用，比如購物時問問他們覺得某個尺碼合不合適，因為要穿這件衣服的人和對方身材差不多。

6. Ask about a mutual friend 談論一下共同的朋友

Mutual friends are good conversation starters when you are invited by the same person. Asking “So how do you know Mike? ” allows the two of you to get to know each other.

你們被同一個人邀請時共同的朋友是很好的話題，詢問“你怎么認識Mike的？”這能讓你們兩個了解對方。

7. Plan a dream vacation 計劃一次夢想之旅

Ask someone “If you got a free ticket to anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be?” It’s a great way to learn about them.

詢問某個人“如果你明天有一張去世界任何地方的免費票，你會去哪兒？”這是一個了解對方的好方法。

8. Scare them (just a little) 嚇到對方（輕微地）

One of my favorite conversation starters is asking“What was your high school mascot?” It immediately takes the person back to their childhood. Then I follow up by joking,“You know that you just gave me the answer to one of your online security questions, right?” People usually laugh, often launching into a conversation about online identity theft.

我最喜歡的一個開場白就是問“你高中吉祥物是什么？”馬上就能讓對方回憶起童年。然后我再開玩笑說“你知道你剛告訴我你網上安全問題的答案了嗎？”人們通常會笑，然后開始跟你聊盜用網上身份盜用的經歷。