新環(huán)境怎么交友

初來乍到，身處新的環(huán)境，面對一個(gè)個(gè)陌生的面龐，你是否會(huì)懼怕緊張、無所適從？如果是，那么不妨來聆聽一些建議吧。

Imagine being in the hallway of a crowded school. The bell is ringing and countless students are changing classes. The noise of conversation and the smell of freshly sharpened pencils fill the air. You're new in town and this is your first day at school. Because of the fact that you don't know anyone yet (except the principal)， you're instantly overcome1) with feelings of fear and nervousness. You're afraid that you won't fit in， someone will make fun of your hair， or you'll just simply embarrass yourself by saying the wrong things. Everyone has had a moment where they're not really sure about how they'll succeed in a new environment. But with the following suggestions， you'll know just what it takes to achieve in a new surrounding.

想象你此刻站在一所十分擁擠的學(xué)校的走廊上。下課鈴聲響起，不計(jì)其數(shù)的學(xué)生穿梭于不同班級之間。空氣中充斥著嘈雜的聊天聲和剛削尖的鉛筆的味道。你剛搬來鎮(zhèn)上，而今天又是你來新學(xué)校的第一天。(除了校長之外)你還不認(rèn)識(shí)任何人，所以你便立刻被恐懼和不安的感覺包圍。你害怕自己會(huì)不適應(yīng)，怕有人會(huì)嘲笑你的發(fā)型，或是怕說錯(cuò)了話讓自己陷入尷尬的境地。每個(gè)人都有過這樣的時(shí)刻，不太確定自己如何才能順利適應(yīng)新環(huán)境。但是，有了以下幾條建議，你就會(huì)明白怎樣做就能在一個(gè)新環(huán)境中如魚得水。

1. Join a Team or Volunteer

By swallowing2) your fears and taking a chance， you'd be surprised at all the possibilities that can occur by doing extracurricular activities. You'll make friends， contribute to your school's overall success， and increase your confidence along the way. Volunteering also does wonders3) and it looks really good on college applications as well. Participating in extracurricular activities is an excellent way to make friends and become active in your school.

2. Smile and Be Nice

Even though you might feel afraid to speak to others， it's important to remember that being a nice person goes a long way4). When you show people that you are friendly， it tells them that you are a good person who gets along well with others. Encourage yourself to be the first one to talk to people. It's quite possible that they are just as nervous around others as you are， so make them feel comfortable and be the first to speak up.

3. Be a Good Listener

When you show people that you are a good listener， it shows them that you genuinely5) care about what they are saying. Showing another person that you are concerned with everything that goes on in their life assures them that you are as authentic6) as solid gold. This is yet another way to make friends in a new environment.

4. Be Trustworthy

Nobody likes a gossiper or someone who stabs7) them in the back. Would you like someone to tell your most forbidden secrets to the entire world? Of course not， so it isn't wise to do it to someone else. It's the golden rule: Do unto8) others as you would have them do unto you. When someone trusts you completely， it's something that shouldn't be taken lightly. Trust is something to be cherished and nourished9)， and showing others that you can be trusted is essential to making new friends.

5. Choose Your Friends Wisely

Stay away from relationships that are unhealthy. By surrounding yourself with people with positive attitudes and goals， you are setting the foundation for a better life for yourself. It's important to find friends who have the same values as you as well.

6. Get Hip10) with Social Media

Sites like Facebook have completely taken over just about every aspect of society， forever changing the way we arrange meetings， conduct business， and interact with family and friends. These social networking sites， even though they are fairly new， are effective methods for fully utilizing basic human communication. With more and more teens using these sites just about every second of every day， it would be wise to start your own Facebook account to connect with possible friends. Just remember to use these sites safely and wisely!

7. Don't Give up

There's a first time for everything， and there are always times where you don't feel like you're going to make it! That's why it's important to remember that good things come to those who wait. Also， you must be patient because sometimes these things take time.

8. Be Yourself

This is the most important factor when adjusting to a new environment. You must stay true to who you are and be confident. By staying true to yourself and your own beliefs， you are showing the world that you are an individual who is proud of who you are. This kind of confidence is like a magnet. It will attract all kinds of people into your life， and these people could possibly turn into new， lifelong friends. Simply put， you cannot live a genuine life if you yourself are not genuine.

1. 加入一個(gè)團(tuán)隊(duì)或成為一名志愿者

克服自身的恐懼，勇于嘗試，你會(huì)驚奇于課外活動(dòng)所帶來的各種可能。你會(huì)結(jié)交新朋友，會(huì)為學(xué)校的全面興旺貢獻(xiàn)力量，同時(shí)也會(huì)增加你的自信心。當(dāng)志愿者也會(huì)有驚喜，而且對你申請大學(xué)也很有幫助。參加課外活動(dòng)是廣交朋友和成為學(xué)校活躍分子的一個(gè)絕佳方法。

2. 面帶微笑，為人和善

即使你可能害怕跟別人說話，也要牢記為人和善的人才容易成功。你向別人表示友好時(shí)，就是在告訴他們你心地善良，而且很容易相處。鼓勵(lì)自己主動(dòng)和別人說話，因?yàn)閯e人也完全有可能和你一樣緊張，所以要讓他們覺得自在，你要先來打開話題。

3. 善于傾聽

當(dāng)你讓別人看到你是一個(gè)善于傾聽的人時(shí)，就可以向他們表明你是真的關(guān)心他們在說什么。向別人表現(xiàn)出你十分關(guān)心他們生活中所發(fā)生的一切，他們便會(huì)認(rèn)為你無比真誠。而這也是在新環(huán)境中結(jié)交朋友的又一個(gè)方法。

4. 為人可靠

沒有人喜歡愛嚼舌根或是背后算計(jì)別人的人。你想讓別人把你最隱私的秘密公之于世嗎？當(dāng)然不想，所以明智之舉就是不要這樣對待別人。有條金科玉律說得好：己所不欲，勿施于人。當(dāng)別人完全相信你時(shí)，這份信任便不容輕視。信任是需要珍惜和培養(yǎng)的，而讓別人看得出你是一個(gè)值得信任的人對結(jié)交新朋友至關(guān)重要。

5. 明智擇友

遠(yuǎn)離不健康的人際關(guān)系。選擇與那些有著積極生活態(tài)度和追求的人為伍，你便是在為自己更加美好的生活打下根基。尋找與你有相同價(jià)值觀的朋友也很重要。

6. 熟知社交媒體

像臉譜網(wǎng)這樣的網(wǎng)站幾乎已經(jīng)完全占據(jù)了社會(huì)的方方面面，不斷地改變著我們安排會(huì)議、開展業(yè)務(wù)以及與家人和朋友互動(dòng)的方式。這些社交網(wǎng)站雖然成立時(shí)間不長，但卻是基本人際交往得以充分進(jìn)行的有效方法。隨著越來越多的青少年幾乎每時(shí)每刻都在訪問這些網(wǎng)站，注冊屬于你自己的臉譜網(wǎng)賬戶來聯(lián)系一些可能成為朋友的人才是明智之舉。只需謹(jǐn)記：要安全、明智地利用這些網(wǎng)站！

7. 永不放棄

凡事總有第一次，也總有一些時(shí)候你覺得自己不會(huì)成功。所以要謹(jǐn)記：機(jī)會(huì)留給有準(zhǔn)備的人。而且，你必須要有耐心，因?yàn)橛袝r(shí)好事多磨。

8. 做真實(shí)的自己

這是適應(yīng)一個(gè)新環(huán)境最重要的一點(diǎn)。你必須保持真我，充滿自信。堅(jiān)持自我并堅(jiān)定信念，讓你周圍的人明白你是一個(gè)以真我為傲的人。這種自信就像一塊磁鐵，它會(huì)吸引各種各樣的人進(jìn)入你的生活，而這些人可能會(huì)成為你新的終身摯友。簡言之，如果你無法做真實(shí)的自己，那你也無法真實(shí)地生活。

In conclusion， staying true to who you are and simply being a good person is essential to making friends in a new environment. When you do these things with the utmost11) confidence， you will see that it is easy to succeed when you are faced with difficult challenges in an unknown place.

總之，保持真我、為人友善對于在新環(huán)境中交友至關(guān)重要。當(dāng)你能自信滿滿地做到這些時(shí)，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，即便是在一個(gè)陌生的環(huán)境里面對各種艱難的挑戰(zhàn)，你也很容易成功。

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2.swallow [?sw?l??] vt. 忍受

3.do wonders: 對……造成好的影響；產(chǎn)生奇妙的作用

4.go a long way: (人)取得成功

5.genuinely [?d?enju?nli] adv. 真誠地

6.authentic [???θent?k] adj. 真正的，真的

7.stab [st?b] vt. (在感情上)刺傷，刺痛

8.unto [??nt?] prep. 對，給，于

9.nourish [?n?r??] vt. 滋養(yǎng)；培育

10.hip [h?p] adj. (= hep)通曉的；熟悉內(nèi)情的(to)

11.utmost [??tm??st] adj. 極度的；最大的