你是否坦率?

面對同伴，你總是開誠布公、坦誠相對？還是會保持緘默、守口如瓶？不妨來測測看吧。

Honesty is usually the best policy， but being too upfront1) can foil2) a friendship. Do you know when truth-telling rocks and when to keep your opinions to yourself?

1. Your BFF doesn''''t think she has failed to get Blake Lively''''s3) lush hair. Are you straight with her about that?

A. No. She loves her look—why ruin her fantasy.

B. Of course! Her hair is just beyond unfortunate.

C. Sort of， but you sweetly suggest a few hairdo4) do''''s， then go for joint makeovers5).

2. You heard that your bud''''s parents are probably divorcing. You ...

A. deny—and hope the gossip doesn''''t set back to her.

B. tell her that those kinds of rumors always fizzle6) fast.

C. go to her and let her know all her friends are there for her.

3. You''''re home on a night when your BFF''''s mom calls to talk with her. Thing is， she''''s secretly out with a boy. You ...

A. pretend there''''s a bad connection and hang up.

B. say she''''s in the bathroom and will call her later. Then text her to ring her mom ASAP7).

C. tell her mom that she''''s not around， then let your BFF know you''''re not ok with being her excuse.

4. Your coach benches8) you. When you moan to your BFF， she says， \"What do you expect? You skipped two practices last week! Next time， work a little harder.\" Your reaction?

A. Appreciation. You deserve the reality check9).

B. Shock. Isn''''t she supposed to make you feel better?

C. You''''re annoyed at first， but eventually have to admit that she''''s right.

5. You love your pal except when she rips10) on everyone. How do you let her know how much her cattiness11) makes you cringe12)?

A. Indirectly. Next time she starts gossiping， quickly change the subject.

B. You don''''t， even though it makes you uncomfortable.

C. Directly. Tell her to give it a rest.

6. You always unload your problems on your bud， but she never does. Does it bug13) you?

A. Yes. True friendship needs give and take.

B. A little bit. But you can ask her if she has any troubles to talk about.

C. No. She probably doesn''''t open up to anybody.

7. Your BFF is into everything with her new pal that you can''''t stand. Will you say something?

A. No way. You''''ll sit through14).

B. Kind of. You just smile and nod when she says she loves something lame15).

C. Of course! Tell her to enter the World''''s Dumbest BFFs show with her new pal.

Results 看看你的測試結果

SCORING 計分

1. A-1 B-3 C-2

2. A-1 B-2 C-3

3. A-1 B-2 C-3

4. A-3 B-1 C-2

5. A-2 B-1 C-3

6. A-3 B-2 C-1

7. A-1 B-2 C-3

17~21分：過于誠實型

你認為既然是事實就應該如實地講出來，而且希望你的朋友不要有任何隱瞞。盡管你的率真和坦誠值得贊揚，但是要記住，即便你是對的，你說得太過直白就可能會讓別人受不了。所以，下一次當你迫切想告訴你的閨蜜她的贅肉看起來要把緊身牛仔褲撐開時，先想想她的感受。如果你想不出一種更委婉的方式讓她知道，那就隨它去吧。

12~16分：足夠坦率型

我們可以稱之為誠實的折衷辦法：你和你的朋友都知道何時該和盤托出，何時最好該隱瞞真相。因此，大多數時候，你們的友誼都會堅如磐石。想要確保你的友誼保持牢固，說真話的時候就要注意：如果你覺得自己一直都太過于坦率(或者不夠坦率)，就趕緊道個歉把事情解決了。如果你并不是十分喜歡你朋友的率直或是不太率直，那就直說。這樣的開誠布公可以讓你們的友誼更加牢固。

7~11分：保留己見型

挑起沖突可不是你要做的事，你寧可掩飾自己的情緒也不愿攪起一場風波。雖然和平相處很好，然而彼此坦誠相待才是友誼的真諦。所以下次如果你發現自己閉口不提時，不如試試友好地說出真相，看看會怎樣。毋庸置疑，你的朋友會欣然接受你的意見，也會以同樣的真誠來回報你。如果他們沒這么做，至少你會知道什么是對的。然后，你可以去找一個對你以誠相待的朋友。

1.upfront [??p?fr?nt] adj. 坦率的

2.foil [f??l] vt. 挫敗

3.Blake Lively: 布萊克·萊夫利(1987~)，美國現代影視演員，熱播美劇《緋聞女孩》(Gossip Girl)中女主角Serena的扮演者。

4.hairdo [?he?du?] n. <口> (尤指女子)發式

5.makeover [?me?k??v?(r)] n. (發型、裝束等的)大變樣；改頭換面

6.fizzle [?f?zl] vi. 萎靡；衰退

7.ASAP: = as soon as possible，盡快

8.bench [bent?] vt. <美>【體】不讓(隊員)上場

9.reality check: <主美口>提醒人面對現實的事件

10.rip [r?p] vi. <口>氣憤地說粗話

11.cattiness [?k?tin?s] n. 喜歡說三道四的性格

12.cringe [kr?nd?] vi. 畏縮

13.bug [b?ɡ] vt. <美俚>煩擾；使困惑

14.sit through: 坐著挨到……結束；耐著性子看完(或聽完)

15.lame [le?m] adj. 差勁的，蹩腳的