Communication in family conflicts家庭矛盾中的溝通

山東 李全忠

溝通是處理家庭矛盾的重要因素。未解決的分歧會給父母和孩子帶來壓力，導(dǎo)致日常互動困難、爭吵頻率增加。雖然沒有辦法完全避免家庭矛盾，但如能傳達清晰的口頭和非口頭信息并積極傾聽，我們就有可能減輕家庭矛盾的影響并使其處于控制之中。

1Communication is an important factor in managing family conflict.Unresolved disagreements can result in stress for both parents and children,difficulty in everyday interactions,and increased frequency of arguments.While there is no way to completely avoid family conflict,being able to send clear verbal and nonverbal messages and engage in active listening can help lessen the impact and keep it under control.

2Family conflict can occur between parents and children,between siblings,or between spouses(配偶).How family members approach a conflict can mean the difference between positive or negative effects on the family unit.Productive conflict can help a family become closer and assist members in moving through their problems.However,in its destructive form,it can be detrimental to any relationship.

3Healthy communication—which includes listening,being positive,respecting the opinions and feelings of others,and staying calm—can help family members be more receptive to each other during a conflict.Open and honest communication can aid in problem solving and can help family members acknowledge any underlying issues involved in conflict.It can also increase the likelihood that the original cause of a conflict will not lead to future problems on the same subject.

4When family members adopt unhealthy styles of interaction or have difficulty relating to each other altogether,disagreements can become more intense.Examples include exhibiting extreme emotions,changing the subject,making excuses,blaming others,and being rude.According to Leanne Knobloch,an expert in interpersonal communication and conflict resolution,having the same arguments over and over as a result of unresolved,ongoing conflict can cause harmful effects on personal well-being and the health of relationships.

5Once family members learn what skills work during conflict,they can use them in future disagreements.It is important to pay attention to the verbal and nonverbal cues of everyone involved in an interaction.Other suggestions include being open to conflicting views,welcoming compromises(和解)and avoiding negativity during and after the conflict.

Reading Check

Choose the best answers according to the text

Vocabulary 1.Which of the following can replace the underlined word “detrimental” in paragraph 2?

A.Cautious. B.Sensitive. C.Harmful. D.Supportive.

Gist 2.What does paragraph 3 mainly talk about?

A.Different types of conflict.

B.Unhealthy communication styles.

C.How communication helps.

D.What brings healthy communication.

Detail 3.Which of the following statements will Leanne Knobloch agree with?

A.One should stay calm before conflict.

B.Language skills work little in conflict.

C.Men should give in to women in conflict.

D.Unresolved conflict affects one's health.

Detail 4.According to the author,what plays an important part in solving conflict?

A.Communication skills. B.Levels of relationships.

C.Easily solved problems. D.Attitudes to communication.

Language Study

Ⅰ.Analyze the difficult structure in the text

When family members adopt unhealthy styles of interaction or have difficulty relating to each other altogether,disagreements can become more intense.當家庭成員采用不健康的互動方式或相互理解存在困難時，分歧可能會變得更加激烈。

【點石成金】本句是一個主從復(fù)合句，句中的When引導(dǎo)時間狀語從句。have difficulty(in)doing sth意為“做……有困難”。

Ⅱ.Memorize some text-centered chunks

result in導(dǎo)致

engage in參加；從事；忙于

move through通過

aid in在……方面有幫助

lead to導(dǎo)致

pay attention to關(guān)注