How to use body language effectively

江蘇泰州市姜堰區羅塘高級中學 錢盈盈

面部表情、眼神、頭部的運動、手勢以及身體的姿態等這些肢體語言可以完成很多口頭語言無法完成的溝通任務。 那么，如何恰當地運用肢體語言呢？

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難詞探意

1. gaze /ge?z/ n. 凝視；注視

2. spine /spa?n/ n. 脊柱；脊椎

3. parallel /?p?r?lel/ adj. 平行的

4. vibes /va?bz/ n. 情緒；氣氛

5.disingenuous/?d?s?n?d?enju?s/adj. 不真誠的

6. bilateral /?ba??l?t?r?l/ adj. 雙邊的；雙方的

7. intimidating /?n?t?m?de?t??/ adj. 嚇人的；令人膽怯的

Body language is an important part of being an effective communicator. You can make a positive impression on other people when you learn to use good body language. Here are some effective tips.

Get in the right mindset

One of the easiest ways to ensure friendly body language is to go into a room with friendly intentions. “Before meeting someone, imagine that you really like the person,” said Elena Ledoux. “Then when you start the meeting, try to find reasons why you sincerely like him or her. This leads to a friendlygaze, relaxed body posture, and more smiling.” When you make someone feel special, he or she is more likely to go the extra mile for you in the future.

Perfect your posture

The foundation of good body language is great posture. Straighten yourspine,relax your shoulders and keep your chinparallelto the floor. You'll also want to keep your arms in a position that doesn't close off your chest. “Keep your body open or unblocked,” said John P. Garrison, a psychologist and body language expert. “We tend to cover our chests when we feel anxious or threatened so when they're open, we're seen as honest.”

Flash a smile

Everyone knows that smiling gives off positivevibesand shows people you're open to conversation. But not just any smile will do; in fact, adisingenuousone could wind up backfiring. “Honest emotions arebilateral,” said Garrison. “That means they show up on both sides of the face. So make sure if you are going to smile, that it is a full and genuine one. A smile on one side of the face is unconsciously interpreted as contempt, so a quick grin or an attempted polite one-sided smile is not a good idea.”

Make eye contact

Strong eye contact is key to appearing friendly and confident. “Looking someone in the eyes is toointimidating,” body language expert Lillian Glass said. “Instead, look at the total face for one second.” Obviously, you should also avoid looking around the room or checking your phone.

Shake on it

A firm handshake makes a strong first impression. Reach out a hand vertically and meet the other person in the middle. “Don't attempt to dominate nor be submissive in your hand positioning,” said Mark Anderson, director of training and development at Anderson Investigative Associates. “Move your hand straight forward and with some measure of firmness. This is not the time for dead fish hands, and if your hands are sweaty, wipe it off.”

Use hand gestures

Once you've started your conversation, you'll want to let your body move naturally. “Because we freeze when we feel threatened, minimal body movement can be seen as attempting to be dishonest or deceitful,” said Garrison. “Research shows that people who speak with more hand gestures are believed to be more honest than those who do not use their hands when they talk.”

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Apart from the tips for effective body language mentioned in the text, can you find more ways to use body language properly?

主題應用·語庫構建

Ⅰ. 熱詞積累

動作類肢體語言

1. greet 迎接；和……打招呼

2. approach 接近

3. defend 保護；保衛

4. grin 露齒笑；咧嘴笑

5. frown 皺眉

6. hug 擁抱

7. yawn 打哈欠

8. bow 鞠躬

9. shake hands 握手

10. interpret 把……理解為；詮釋

11. perceive 察覺到；將……理解為

12. stare 凝視

13. react 回應

14. weep 哭泣

15. doubt 懷疑

16. nod 點頭

17. bend 屈身

18. touch 觸碰

肢體語言的心理或情感效應

1. angry 生氣的

2. confident 自信的

3. confused 困惑的

4. embarrassed 尷尬的

5. curious 好奇的

6. interested 感興趣的

7. puzzled 迷惑的

8. disgusted 厭惡的；反感的

9. excited 興奮的

10. enthusiastic 熱情的

11. satisfied/content 滿意的

12. sensitive 敏感的

13. worried/concerned 憂慮的

14. scared/frightened 害怕的

15. indifferent 冷漠的

16. mild 溫和的

17. subjective 主觀的

18. objective 客觀的

19. neutral 中立的

20. ambiguous 含糊的

21. negative 消極的

22. positive 樂觀的

23. supportive 支持的

24. approving 同意的

25. opposed 強烈反對的

肢體部位

1. head 頭

2. face 臉

3. cheek 臉頰

4. eye 眼睛

5. nose 鼻子

6. eyebrow 眉毛

7. tooth 牙齒

8. mouth 嘴巴

9. ear 耳朵

10. chin 下巴

11. elbow 肘部

12. hand 手

13. thumb 大拇指

14. forefinger 食指

15. middle finger 中指

16. ring finger 無名指

17. little finger 小指

18. leg 腿

19. knee 膝蓋

20. foot 腳

肢體語言功能

1. communicate 溝通

2. express/convey 表達

3. relieve 緩解

4. imply 暗示

5. replace 代替

6. strengthen 加強

7. distinguish 區分

8. make inferences 推斷

Ⅱ. 美句背誦

1. With so many cultural differences between people, it is lucky to have some similarities in body language. 人與人之間有這么多的文化差異，但幸運的是，人們的肢體語言有一些相似之處。

2. Making a fist and shaking it means that someone is angry and threatening another person. 緊握拳頭并搖晃它意味著某人生氣且正在威脅另一個人。

3. Body language is the non-verbal way of communication that we use to reveal our true feelings and emotions. 肢體語言是我們用來表達真實感受和情緒的非語言的交流方式。

4. Being aware of negative body language of others can allow you to pick up on unspoken issues. 注意別人的消極的肢體語言可以讓你意識到隱含的問題。

5. There's a common perception that people who touch their faces while answering questions are being dishonest. 人們普遍認為，在回答問題時觸摸臉部的人是不誠實的。

6. Try to hold the other person's gaze for a few seconds. This will show that you're sincere and engaged. But, avoid turning it into a staring match! 可以試著與對方進行幾秒鐘的目光交流。 這會讓你看起來非常真誠和投入。 但是，不要把它變成一場盯人的比賽！

7. Truth reveals itself more clearly through our action than it does through our words. 實際行

動遠比話語更能清楚地揭示真理。

8. The body says what words cannot. 身體能傳達出語言無法表達的東西。

9. A single look can convey so much. 一個表情能傳達很多信息。

10. When it comes to using the eyes as nonverbal communication, eye contact immediately comes to your mind. 當論及使用眼睛進行非語言交際的時候，眼神交流就會立刻浮現在你的腦海中。

11. All animals use body language to organize and run their private and social lives. 所有動物都會用肢體語言來組織和管理它們的私生活和社會生活。

12. Body language may be the determining factor in a job interview. 肢體語言可能是求職面試中的決定性因素。

Ⅲ. 讀后創寫

假定你是李華， 你所在的班級將舉行一場以“body language”為主題的演講比賽。 請你寫一份演講稿，要點如下：

1. 肢體語言的重要性；

2. 肢體語言在世界各地具有差異性；3. 學習肢體語言的必要性。

注意：

1. 詞數150左右；

2. 開頭和結尾已給出，不計入總詞數；

3. 可以適當增加細節，以使行文連貫。

Ladies and gentlemen,

It's my great honor to be here and give a speech titled “The importance of body language”.

That's all. Thank you for listening.