真愛，零期待

繪◎木南

掃我，朗讀給你聽

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm①palm英 [pɑ?m] 美 [pɑm] n. 手掌；棕櫚樹；掌狀物of her hand with a little water and held it before me,and said this:

You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes②symbolize 美 ['s?mb?la?z] vt. 象征；用符號表現 vi. 采用象征；作為……的象征 ③attempt to嘗試，企圖；試圖做某事Love. As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to③close your fingers around it and try to possess it,it will spill through the first cracks④crack 英 [kr?k] 美 [kr?k] vi. 爆裂 n. 裂縫；噼啪聲it finds.This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love… They try to possess it, they demand, they expect… and just like the water spillin out of your hand, Love will retrieve⑤retrieve 英 [r?'tri?v] 美 [r?'triv] vt. 重新得到 vi. 找回獵物from you.

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature.

If you have people you love, allow them to be free beings.Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true Love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional⑥unconditional英 [?nk?n'd??(?)n(?)l] 美 [,?nk?n'd???nl]adj. 無條件的；絕對的；無限制的caring.

我曾有個朋友，我們的關系很親密。有一次我們坐在游泳池邊上，她在手掌里盛了點兒水，捧在我面前，說：

你仔細看我手上這水了嗎？那代表愛。只要你小心地彎曲著你的手指，并允許它待在那兒，它會永遠在那兒。但是，如果你試圖合攏手指試圖占有它，它會從找到的第一個縫隙溢出去。這是人們當他們遇到愛時犯的最大的錯誤……他們試圖占有它，他們要求，他們期待……就像溢出你的手掌的水一樣，愛會從你身邊撤退。

因為愛意味著自由隨意，你不能改變它的本性。

如果你有愛的人，允許他們自由隨意地存在。給予而不指望。建議而不命令。請求而不要求。可能聽起來簡單，但這需要一輩子去實踐。這就是真愛的秘訣。真正去實踐它，你必須對那些你愛的人沒有期望，并給予無條件的關愛。