幸福是個過程

We always convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married and have a baby than another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

We always tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together； when we get a nice car， and are able to go on a nice vocation when we retire. The truth is， there’s no better time than right now. Our life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to ourselves and decide to be happy anyway.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred Souza. He said， “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin—real life. But there was always some obstacles in the way， something to be gotten through first， some unfinished business， a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment that you have.

And remember that time waits for no one. So stop waiting until you finish school， until you go back to school； until you get married， until you get divorced； until you have kids； until you retire； until you get a new car or home； until spring； until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy...

Happiness is a journey， not a destination. So， work like you don’t need money， love like you’ve never been hurt， and dance like no one is watching.

我們總是對自己說，我們結(jié)婚、生子后日子會過得更加舒心些。等到那時(shí)，我們卻充滿挫折感，認(rèn)為當(dāng)孩子大了些后，情況就會好些吧。當(dāng)孩子到了青春期，我們又要處理他們的青春期問題。我們都深信當(dāng)他們過了那個階段后，幸福就會降臨。

我們總是對自己說，當(dāng)另一半有條理地過活時(shí)，我們的人生就會很圓滿。當(dāng)我們買了一輛漂亮的車后，在年老退休后就能開去度假。可事實(shí)上，再也沒有比當(dāng)下更好的時(shí)間段了，我們的人生總是充滿挑戰(zhàn)。不管怎么說，對你我而言，最好是承認(rèn)這一點(diǎn)，然后開始快樂起來。

我最喜歡爾弗雷德·蘇澤說過的一段話。他說：『一直以來，似乎真正的生活即將展開。但是前方總有些東西攔在那里：一些要跨越的困難；一些要完成的工作；一些要支付的賬單。當(dāng)這些事解決后，真正的生活就會降臨。后來最終我意識到這些阻礙就是我的人生。』

這樣的想法使我認(rèn)識到，沒有通往幸福的路，因?yàn)樾腋＞褪锹吠颈旧怼Ｋ哉湎愕拿糠置棵氚桑?/p>

要牢記時(shí)不我待。莫等到你畢業(yè)之后、重返校園之時(shí)才去期待（幸福）；莫結(jié)婚、離婚之后才去期待（幸福）；莫等到你膝下繞子、退休后、買新車新房后才去期待（幸福）；莫等到早春遲來、莫等到你重獲新生后才認(rèn)識到人生本是『莫待來日，及時(shí)行樂』……

幸福是個過程，而非目的地。因此，工作吧，就像不需要金錢一樣；去愛吧，就像從未受過傷害一樣；跳舞吧，就像沒有人注視一樣。