人生真諦

Life isn’t about keeping score. It’s not about how many friends you have. Or how many people call you. Or how accepted or unaccepted you are. Not about if you have plans this weekend. Or if you’re alone. It isn’t about who you’re dating， who you used to date， how many people you’ve dated， or if you haven’t been with anyone at all. It isn’t about who you have kissed. It isn’t about who your family is or how much money they have. Or what kind of car you drive. Or where you’re sent to school.

It’s not about how beautiful or ugly you are. Or what clothes you wear， what shoes you have on， or what kind of music you listen to. It’s not about if your hair is blond[金發的]， red， black， brown， or green. Or if your skin is too light or too dark.

It’s not about what grades you get， how smart you are， how smart everyone else thinks you are， or how smart standardized tests say you are. Or if this teacher likes you， or if this guy/girl likes you. Or what clubs you’re in， or how good you are at your sport. It’s not about representing[表現] your whole being on a piece of paper and seeing who will accept the written you.

But life is about who you love and who you hurt. It’s about who you make happy or unhappy purposefully. It’s about keeping or betraying[背叛] trust. It’s about friendship， used as sanctity[神圣]， or as a weapon. It’s about what you say and mean， maybe hurtful， maybe heartening[鼓舞人的]. About starting rumors and contributing to petty[小的] gossip. It’s about what judgments you pass and why. And who your judgments are spread to.

It’s about who you’ve ignored with full control and intention. It’s about jealousy[嫉妒]， fear， pain， ignorance， and revenge[報復]. It’s about carrying inner hate and love， letting it grow and spreading it.

But most of all， it’s about using your life to touch or poison other people’s hearts in such a way that could never have occurred alone. Only you choose the way these hearts are affected， and those choices are what life is all about.

人生并不是一場得分賽。人生不在于你擁有多少朋友，有多少人給你打電話，或者你有多么受歡迎或不受歡迎；不在于這個周末你是有安排，還是獨自度過；不在于你和誰約會，約過誰，約過多少人，又或者你從未嘗過約會的滋味；不在于你吻過誰；不在于你的家里都有誰，他們多么富有，你開什么車，或者被送去什么學校就讀。

人生不在于你長相的美或丑，穿什么衣服，穿什么鞋，或者聽什么樣的音樂；不在于你的頭發是金色、紅色、黑色、褐色或是綠色，你的膚色太淺或是太深。

人生不在于你的成績如何，你有多聰明，其他人認為你有多聰明，或智力標準測驗說你有多聰明；不在于這位老師是否喜歡你，或者這個男孩/女孩是否喜歡你；不在于你加入了什么社團，或者你有多擅長某項運動；不在于你將自己整個人展現在一張紙上，看看誰會接受“紙上的你”。

然而，人生在于你愛著誰，又傷害了誰；在于你特意逗誰開心，或是惹人生氣；在于你是否值得信賴，還是背叛了別人的信任；在于你是否將友誼奉為圣物，還是用來攻擊別人；在于你的言語及其意味——也許令人傷心，也許讓人振奮；在于你是否散布謠言，為閑言碎語提供談資；在于你做出的判斷及其原因，并將你的意見散播給什么人。

人生在于你出于本心、有意而為地忽視了誰；在于你的嫉妒、恐懼、痛苦、無知和報復；在于你如何對待內心的恨與愛，任其繁衍，影響他人。……