關(guān)于幸福

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A proverb allegedly from ancient China whichwas widely spread the West says : If you want to behappy for a few hours, go to get drunk ;if you want thehappiness to last for three years, get married ;if youwant it life-long one,take up gardening. The reasonfor the last option is this : Gardening is not only use-ful, it helps you to identify yourself with nature andthus brings you new joy each day besides improvingyour health.

A research of a US university gives a definitionof happiness as what makes a person feel comfortablypleased.

Lots of people regard it the happiest to be atleisure. But according to a study ,it is not a personwith plenty of leisure but one at work that feels hap-py, especially those busy with work having little timefor leisure. Happiness does not mean to gain whatone is after but to desire to harvest what one is seek-ing for. People often do not cherish what they alreadyhave but yearn for what they can not get.

So, happiness is a game balancing between twoends-what one has and what one wishes for. Thestudy comes to this conclusion : A happy man is onewho aims high but never forgets his actual situation ;one who meets challenges that tap his ability and po-tentiality ;one who is proud of his achievements andthe recognition given to him. He has self-respect andself-confidence ; treasures his own identity and lovesfreedom. He is sociable and enjoys wide-rangedcommunication with others. He is helpful and readyto accept assistance. He knows he is able to enduresufferings and frustrations.He is sensible enough toget fun from daily chores. He is a man capable of loveand passion.

在西方流傳著一句據(jù)說是來自古老中國的諺語：如果你想要幾個小時的幸福，就去喝醉酒吧；如果你想要三年的幸福，就去結(jié)婚吧；如果你想要一輩子的幸福，就去做個園丁吧。他們對園丁能一輩子幸福的解釋是：不但是做有用的事，還能幫助你與自然融為一體；不但能鍛煉身體．還會為每天都帶來新的喜悅。

美國某所大學通過研究，給出了“幸?！钡亩x：使人感到舒適滿意的(生活)狀態(tài)。

許多人認為休閑是莫大的幸福，但調(diào)查顯示：大部分感到幸福的人是有工作者，特別是那些因工作忙碌而無太多閑暇時間的人。幸福并不意味著“得到我們想要的東西”，而是“追求我們想要的東西”。人有時并不珍惜自己已經(jīng)擁有的，卻總?cè)ハ肽切┳约旱貌坏降臇|西。

所以，幸福就是一種在兩者之間維持平衡的游戲，這兩者就是我們已有的和我們想要的。這項研究最后的結(jié)論是：幸福的人就是有一個遠大理想同時也不忘記自己是活在現(xiàn)實中的人，一個選擇挑戰(zhàn)自己才干和潛能的人。一個對自己的成就和社會認同感到驕傲的人，一個自尊、自信、自愛、自由的人，一個有交際能力也樂于與人交往的人，一個樂于助人也受人恩惠的人，一個知道自己能承受痛苦和挫折的人，一個能從日常小事上感到樂趣的人，一個能愛有激情的人。

(責任編校／陳菁菁)